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Nobody Is Perfect, Especially in the Middle of Divorce

By Andrea Vacca

Divorce is one of the most difficult life experiences that anyone can go through. And while the clients who I work with are all committed to having the least adversarial divorce possible, it’s not always easy for them to find it…

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The Important Role of Divorce Coaches

By Andrea Vacca

“Nobody can go back and start a new beginning, but anyone can start today and make a new ending.”– Maria Robinson As true as this quote may be, it’s not easy to think about re-writing your future when you’re in…

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The Unofficial, Long-Term Marital Separation

By Andrea Vacca

Something I have been seeing more and more in my practice as a mediator and collaborative attorney are couples living apart for long periods of time, without being legally separated. For various reasons, many married couples decide to separate for years without having any…

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Plan to Have a Great Marriage

By Andrea Vacca

I recently read an article on The New York Times wellness blog by Tara Parker-Pope called ‘The Decisive Marriage.’ In it, Parker-Pope explores the research gathered through The National Marriage Project and asks how does being decisive – or not – affect…

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Maintaining Control in the Midst of Divorce

By Andrea Vacca

The feeling of or ability to be in control can be an elusive concept to many, and the lack of control can be a source of anxiety to those who crave it. When it comes to personal matters, like divorce,…

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Who Supports the Boomerang Kids After a Divorce?

By Andrea Vacca

Working outside of the court system allows divorcing parents of the boomerang generation to consider, discuss and plan for when their adult children return home. In the New York Times Magazine, there was recently an article about the boomerang generation. Kids are…

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Financial Infidelity and Divorce: It’s Complicated

By Andrea Vacca

The legal, emotional and financial needs of couples divorcing due to “financial infidelity” are often complex. When many people hear that “infidelity” was the reason for a divorce, they automatically assume it has to do with sex. More and more often,…

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Conscious Coupling: Using Prenuptial Agreements to Build a Healthy Marriage

By Andrea Vacca

Gwyneth Paltrow and Chris Martin have made the news lately with their “conscious uncoupling” – a new term for a mindful divorce that is an excellent example for separating couples to learn from. Like most people, I had never heard…

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The “Good Enough” Agreement

By Andrea Vacca

When a couple divorces, it is usually the case that neither party gets everything he or she wants. Understanding and accepting this fact before you start the divorce process can help make the process less costly – both financially and emotionally. One…

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Questions to Ask Before Hiring Your Collaborative Divorce Attorney

By Andrea Vacca

In my last post, I explored the idea of “doing no harm” as a collaborative divorce attorney. Some of the comments I received focused on what it means to be a collaborative professional, while others lamented the prevalence of lawyers who…

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To Do No Harm

By Andrea Vacca

The Hippocratic Oath, which reads in part: I will give no deadly medicine to any one if asked, nor suggest any such counsel, is often summarized by the phrase “Do no harm.” This simple yet powerful credo is an excellent approach…

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Tips to Help Reduce Time and Costs When Negotiating Divorce Agreements

By Andrea Vacca

It is possible to make the divorce process more time- and cost-effective? When potential clients consult with me in connection with their divorce, one of the first questions they ask is, “How much do you expect this to cost?” and one…

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