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Putting Compassion At The Center Of Divorce

By Andrea Vacca

Even when spouses are trying to have a non-adversarial divorce, the emotions that arise can hijack innocent intentions and get in the way of achieving the bigger goals such as the children’s well being, future financial security for one another…

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CAUTION: Don’t Text While Divorcing

By Andrea Vacca

I was recently sitting at my desk when I received a text message from a phone number I didn’t recognize. In rapid succession I received the following missives: This person, who was obviously in distress around a family law matter…

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Will Your Divorce Be a War Story or a Peace Story?

By Andrea Vacca

As I picked up The New York State Bar Association Journal earlier in the month, the cover story intrigued me. It was called “More War Stories from the New York Courts.” It was about civil litigation cases that go on for years.…

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Sometimes the Solution Is Right in Front of You

By Andrea Vacca

I recently decided it was time to give my website a makeover. My website designer and I decided that blue would be a primary color in the design and she asked me to send her shades of blue that appealed…

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The Choice Is Yours

By Andrea Vacca

Sometimes people in the middle of divorce litigation realize that the court system just isn’t working for them. Time is going by, the costs are piling up, and they seem further from resolution than ever. At this point, it may…

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Nobody Is Perfect, Especially in the Middle of Divorce

By Andrea Vacca

Divorce is one of the most difficult life experiences that anyone can go through. And while the clients who I work with are all committed to having the least adversarial divorce possible, it’s not always easy for them to find it…

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The Important Role of Divorce Coaches

By Andrea Vacca

“Nobody can go back and start a new beginning, but anyone can start today and make a new ending.”– Maria Robinson As true as this quote may be, it’s not easy to think about re-writing your future when you’re in…

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The Unofficial, Long-Term Marital Separation

By Andrea Vacca

Something I have been seeing more and more in my practice as a mediator and collaborative attorney are couples living apart for long periods of time, without being legally separated. For various reasons, many married couples decide to separate for years without having any…

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Plan to Have a Great Marriage

By Andrea Vacca

I recently read an article on The New York Times wellness blog by Tara Parker-Pope called ‘The Decisive Marriage.’ In it, Parker-Pope explores the research gathered through The National Marriage Project and asks how does being decisive – or not – affect…

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Maintaining Control in the Midst of Divorce

By Andrea Vacca

The feeling of or ability to be in control can be an elusive concept to many, and the lack of control can be a source of anxiety to those who crave it. When it comes to personal matters, like divorce,…

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Who Supports the Boomerang Kids After a Divorce?

By Andrea Vacca

Working outside of the court system allows divorcing parents of the boomerang generation to consider, discuss and plan for when their adult children return home. In the New York Times Magazine, there was recently an article about the boomerang generation. Kids are…

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Financial Infidelity and Divorce: It’s Complicated

By Andrea Vacca

The legal, emotional and financial needs of couples divorcing due to “financial infidelity” are often complex. When many people hear that “infidelity” was the reason for a divorce, they automatically assume it has to do with sex. More and more often,…

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