How Collaborative Divorce Helps to Prioritize Your Children’s Well-Being

If one of your priorities in your divorce is to ensure the well-being of your children, you need to consider the Collaborative Divorce process. Collaborative Divorce offers a more amicable, respectful, and child-focused alternative to traditional adversarial divorce and more support than Mediation can provide.

The Collaborative Divorce process involves you and your spouse working together with your attorneys and the Collaborative Divorce team to reach a settlement without going to court. This process is built on four main tenets:

  1. No Court Involvement:  Everyone involved agrees that they will not go to court. The attorneys and the Collaborative Divorce team will work with you outside of the courtroom.
  2. Honesty and Transparency: Full disclosure of assets and liabilities from both parties fosters trust and openness.
  3. Privacy and Confidentiality: The process is 100% confidential, protecting your family’s privacy.
  4. Best Interests of the Children: The children’s well-being is always a top priority.

Choosing Collaborative Divorce means you are committed to handling the separation in a way that minimizes conflict and focuses on the future well-being of your children. Here’s how this process benefits your children:

In Collaborative Divorce, the focus is not only on the logistics of Child Custody and Parenting Agreements but also on the overall impact on the children’s well-being. This includes decisions about:

  • Living Arrangements: Determining where each parent will live and how this will affect the children’s daily lives.
  • Asset Division: Considering how financial decisions will impact the children.
  • Shared Responsibilities: Deciding how to manage shared responsibilities, such as scheduling appointments, caring for pets and planning vacations, in a way that benefits the children.

A key feature of the Collaborative Divorce process is the involvement of neutral specialists, including:

  • Family Specialists or Divorce Coaches: Help parents navigate the emotional aspects of divorce and improve communication.
  • Child Specialists: Bring the children’s voices into the process without putting them in the middle of conflicts. This ensures that the children’s feelings and needs are considered without them having to make difficult choices or feeling torn between parents.
  • Financial Professionals: Assist in creating a fair and sustainable financial plan that takes the children’s needs into account.

The Collaborative Divorce process reduces the adversarial nature of divorce, which can lower the stress and emotional turmoil for children. By focusing on cooperation and future planning, you and your spouse can model healthy conflict resolution and co-parenting strategies. This forward-looking approach ensures that potential future issues are addressed early, reducing the likelihood of conflicts down the road.

At the beginning of a Collaborative Divorce, you and your spouse will discuss and document what is most important to each of you. This includes your interests, goals, and needs related to parenting. These conversations help you both to understand each other’s perspectives and work towards solutions that meet everyone’s needs, particularly the children’s. Issues commonly addressed at this stage include:

  • Quality vs. Quantity of Time: Discussing whether the focus should be on spending more time with the children or ensuring the time spent is meaningful.
  • Parental Roles: Understanding each parent’s desire to be involved in the child’s routines, such as morning wake-ups and bedtime, drop-off and pick-up from school, and ability to attend extracurricular activities.
  • Extended Family Relationships: Considering the importance of maintaining relationships with extended family, such as grandparents and cousins.

The participation agreement in a Collaborative Divorce, which you and your spouse and all team professionals will sign, clearly states that the children’s best interests will be considered. The agreement outlines the roles of each professional involved and ensures that decisions are made with the children’s well-being in mind. The focus remains on whether each decision is in the best interest of the children so that their needs are kept at the forefront throughout the process.

If the well-being of your children is a priority in your divorce, consider the Collaborative Divorce process. Whereas an adversarial divorce can be incredibly damaging to your children’s well-being and their relationships with both parents, Collaborative Divorce takes a child-centered approach, fostering a healthier divorce environment and ensuring the best possible outcomes for your children.

At Vacca Family Law Group, we understand the importance of maintaining a positive and cooperative relationship for the sake of your children. Our Collaborative Divorce Attorneys provide compassionate and child-focused non-adversarial legal solutions to help you arrive at a resolution that benefits your whole family.

If you’re still wondering if Collaborative Divorce is the right choice for your divorce, contact us online or call us at (646) 798-4603 for more information or to schedule your free introductory call.