3 Reasons Why You Shouldn’t Wait to Say You Want a Divorce

If you are afraid to tell your spouse you want a divorce because you are not sure that the risks are going to outweigh the rewards then this video is for you.

WATCH: 3 Reasons Why You Shouldn’t Wait to Say You Want a Divorce by Family Law Attorney Andrea Vacca

If you know your marriage is over and you want to end your marriage and you want to do it in a way that’s not going to do more harm to you or your family contact me, Andrea Vacca, at Vacca Family Law Group.

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Transcript

Hi, Andrea Vacca here, collaborative divorce attorney and mediator. If you are somebody who’s been thinking about ending your marriage but you’ve been afraid to tell your spouse because you’re just not sure if the risks are going to outweigh the rewards, well then this video is for you. I want to share with you three reasons why it may make sense for you to let your spouse know sooner rather than later that you want to end your marriage.

But first, I want you to know that I do know how difficult this decision is and I would never tell you to take it lightly. Choosing to end your marriage it’s going to be a very difficult issue that you have to decide for yourself. But when you finally decide it is the right thing, then I want to show you why it might be the time to move forward.

So there are three things I want you to consider: 

First: Every dollar that you’re earning during your marriage is marital property. So every dollar you’re saving, all the money you are earning, the money going into your retirement account – and also even that bonus you’re going to get next year – it could also be marital property and put in the marital pot that you’ll eventually have to divide with your spouse in an equitable way. So you’re just accumulating more assets to divide.

Second: The amount of time that you’re married is going to impact how long you might have to pay spousal support to your spouse. So every month that you put this off, every year that you put this off, it’s just expanding the amount of time on the other side that you might have to pay support. So it could be a very big financial decision about how long you think you might want to have to keep paying your former spouse after your marriage is over.

Third: your kids know you’re unhappy whether they’re eight or 18 or twenty-eight. They know their parents aren’t happy and they’re living in a home that probably doesn’t have a lot of love in it right now, even if you’re getting along and not fighting in front of them, they know. I can tell you this from personal experience because I knew my parents were unhappy for a long long time and even as early as 11 or 12 I was wondering will they get divorced. Well, they didn’t do it till I was about 21 so those 10 years myself and my siblings lived in a very very unhappy home and just waiting for the shoe to drop. And when they finally did it, all I could think was I wish they had done it years before.

So if you know your marriage is over and you want to end your marriage and you want to do it in a way that’s not going to do more harm to you or your family contact me, contact my firm and we can help you explore your options and really think this through, and figure out if this is the right time and how to do it.